When the dress he got me didn't fit!! 
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When the dress he got me didn't fit!! 

It was a beautiful Saturday morning and coincidentally a holiday and my birthday too...I was sleeping besides my 7 month old daughter when a soft touch by my husband woke me up...rubbing my still sleepy eyes, I saw him standing besides the bed with a cup of my favourite ginger tea, a rose bouquet and a gift pack...he was wishing me on my birthday..

It was a really long time when I or rather we had done something normal or something which was very much a part of our life earlier... The birth of our bundle of joy had changed us and our lives to a great extent. Earlier we had work but had a lot of me time as well, we went out, had fun, shopped and relaxed too but now as parents to a kid who slept less, mostly got cranky due to her colic and would always want one of us to pick her up even when we ate our meals, we had forgotten that we had our lives to live too.. .

This small gesture today by my husband on my birthday was a really nice feeling and break from that monotony which had been now continuing for months and while we were having tea, I couldn't supress my excitement and tore the gift pack open...there lied in that golden box, a cute dress...the perfect cut and colour I had always loved and which my hubby knew well...the smile on my face had just begin to broaden when our kid woke up too and kind off wished me...

The day passed off well and we had decided to celebrate a little...our recent trial at an outside dinner was a disaster so we decided to get something packed, put in a little music, dress up well and celebrate...everything ready and just when I was in my room to get into my lovely gifted outfit I shrieked...my husband ran into the room to my rescue thinking that I may have fallen down when he found me struggling to take off that dress which was now stuck around my chest and would neither go down nor up...

A little help from him and once the dress was off my neck I could breathe again...I was now frantically checking whether he had got a wrong size when I realized that it was my size that had changed...from an M, it was now L or God forbid may be XL...

I was crestfallen...my post pregnancy body was not a bit similar to my earlier one and the curves which I had flaunted all my teens and even later after marriage had been replaced by tyres of fat...my breasts looked loose and big and it was the first time in months when I realized that becoming a mother had changed me forever...my loose tees and payjamas in which I had been dressing myself since my child's birth and which I  found super comfortable to feed her had actually hidden the truth related to my body...a new mother's body

I hated what I saw in the mirror and it felt as if everything in that room was mocking me...in a frenzy, I took out many old dresses which I wore earlier but to my dismay, I had outgrown almost all of them...my husband had by now left the room and sensing my situation had gone to attend our baby who had woken up..was hungry and crying...

Realizing that my child wanted me, I had quickly changed again in my tee and payjama's ...was ready to feed  and Just when I had started to cry, my husband who had by now managed to pluck some rose petals from the bouquet he gave me in the morning was showering them over me...he kissed me as passionately as he could on my cheeks and played the song, "kya khoob lagti ho..badi sunder dikhati ho"...the same song we both loved and which he had sung for me on several occassions..

Words had failed us at that moment and it was his assuring eyes and gestures that gave me the strength to realize that I was still beautiful and loved ...there was still hope of achieving myself back again in probably a few months and it was just a matter of time and situation.. There was no hurry or need to panic or over react.....

Becoming a mother is a gift bestowed to us women by God and as mothers we all are beautiful...it's really difficult to sometimes accept the change it brings in our bodies but it is nothing to be ashamed off....it's a fact that if not all, most of us these days want to look good, wear something fab  and getting rid of extra flab is not only good for our looks  and confidence but our overall health too...but another fact is that being a mother that too a new one is not easy, it is exhausting and leaves us with little time for ourselves...

But the one thing we must remember in all this is that loosing heart and crying is not a solution to this...it may take time, determination and effort to bring oneself back in shape after a pregnancy and child birth and sometimes it takes even years or it even never happens....but its the effort that matters and if done with full fervour there is no reason it won't give a good result. 

Also, people who surround us and love and care for us, specially our spouses can be a big support both physically and emotionally in achieving this by giving us the time and support we need.

I take this opportunity to thank mine who helped me a lot in getting back to what I was...

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