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'There is a new class for etiquettes and table manners.I am interested.ARE you planning to enrol too!!'
HE must learn table manners.
She plays so daintily .She never makes a mess.
There are a cupcakes classes in my neighbourhood.Lets join together.
Why did he ask for a second helping?Its so rude.
Look at that tantrum,when will he learn?
Please behave,we have important guests coming over.
You must not have a dirty spot on this expensive T shirt.
Dont embarrass me in front of my guests!
In case you are wondering,this is not a conversation about adults.It is the moms who are discussing table manners,etiquettes and finishing manners for kids as small as 5 yrs.
Why do toddlers need to behave?Arent their actions instinctive?
Why do we stress them so much?Are we guilty of transferring our stresses and anxieties on them?
Why curb them in their formative years?
Do we remember being scolded for messy clothes while playing in the garden? Why are little kids dressing like adults?
Shouldnt kids smear their faces with food while eating?
Do we need to take kids to fancy restaurants and then expect them to behave?
My cousins and I would have an half an hour sessions of helpless giggles when some uncle or aunt with funny accent or antics would come over.Our moms just let us be,they never expected us to be on our best behaviour.We did respect our aunts and uncles,but if we found something funny.....we could laugh without inhibitions!!
Why are kids learning table manners?They have enough time for that.
Why do we need Mini us?
Why do we need Perfect kids with perfect behaviour?
Suddenly NAUGHTINESS is a not too desired behaviour in a child.We want the kids to do exactly what we wish them to do.
NO kid rings the bell in the afternoon and runs off.......IT WAS OUR FAVOURITE PASTTIME AGAINST IRRITATING NEIGHBOURS DURING VACATIONS!!The kids are just scared of doing anything which gets them in trouble with adults.They are even threatened with police complaints.....isnt it scary?
Happy kids are those who are relaxed,not worried about their dress,their surroundings,their messy happy dirt smudged faces after a good roll in the garden.They jump on puddles and have a happy splash.They make a mess during eating cause they dont care about their clothes.
. They know their p's and q's but also enjoy their lighter fun moments of giggles,tears and tantrums.
Our older generation was more patient for the childish behaviours,we are impatient for our kids to grow up.I have often been scolded by my parents when I bully my kid....yes they call it bullying.They cheekily remind me of all the naughty things I have done as a child and yet never been made to feel guilty or to act more grown up.
OUR PARENTS TEACH US AN IMPORTANT LESSON.
Expect AGE APPROPRIATE BEHAVIOUR,dont be in a hurry to have adult kids...THE NAUGHTY,IMPOSSIBLE,MESSY CHILDREN WITH BANGED UP CHINS AND CHOCOLATE SMUDGED FACES HAVE TURNED INTO THE MOST COURTEOUS AND SOMBER TEENS.
CHILDHOOD IS A FLEETING JOY....ENJOY IT WITH YOUR KIDS.
The dirt can be washed.....
The dress can be washed.....
The floor can be scrubbed spotless....
The tables can be cleaned...... The habits can be learned later....
The hurt cannot be mended and moments lost cannot be retrived.
Childhood is now....the few precious years which we have,a gift of god when the kids are blessed with innocence and purity. Let the kids remain kids.... Dont be in a hurry to shorten their childhood.... Dont turn the kids into mini adults.... Let them enjoy ... Let them make a mess... Let them laugh.... Let them cry.... Let them live..... Let them play..... Dont stunt childhood!!
It is due to our happy childhood that we can be happy,relaxed and stress free adults....