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Nishi is a dotting mother and she always takes care of the needs of her 6 year old daughter, Gia, in mind. Her prime motive is to provide her support and appreciation but she often gives into the demands of her growing kid. She has not been bale to set certain rules for her younger one and doesn't demand much thinking that she is very young. though avoiding confrontations could be a big word but she wants her kid to be happy all the time. Many situations have slipped by wherein there was a scope of a little dialogue about the behaviour of her daughter but she avoided it all just to keep things light.
Anubha is so much involved with her demanding job that by the time she comes back home, her 7 year old son, Atharv, is half sleepy. He goes to a day care after school and hardly gets time with his parents except on weekends or long stretched holidays (that too is not always possible owing to the travel based work that his father is into). On most of the days, Anubha or her husband doesn't even ask Atharv how his day has been. Mornings start with a usual rush where Atharv is left in the hands of the maid and his driver drops him off to the school. His parents are clearly not aware about his emotional, physical and mental needs and the life just seems to be going on with a mad pace.
Madhur is a father to a seven year old, Sujay. He is very particular about all aspects of his son's life and has certain standards to be achieved. He makes sure that he takes out time on weekday evenings to take him to his swimming classes but he is literally on his son's head to perform better each day. He doesn't really see that there are days when Sujay has got so tired that he doesn't push himself much. Sujay is slowly developing an image of his father as a person who would never expect him to be the second best. At this tender age, he has a list full of rules to follow at dinner table, at relatives' place and at the time of outings. It shows up now in his behaviour towards his father. He speaks less with him.
Pranav has a lovely eight year old daughter, Sunaina. They have a good understanding relationship with each other. though Pranav has picked up a new designation with bigger responsibilities but he doesn't compromise much on the time he feels he needs to give to his family. Though he has expectations from her daughter but he knows his loving support and encouragement is utmost important. They not only have rules for Sunaina but also for themselves. While they expect Sunaina to do her room, his father also tidies up the almirahs on weekends. She has a positive image of both of them.
You just read a description of different styles of parenting. Could you bracket yourself in one of the situations or you still hover from one description to the other. this all is very natural. These parenting styles starting from situation one to situation four are known as permissive, neglectful, authoritarian and authoritative. Out of all these styles, authoritative is supposed to be the most effective parenting style where the parents provide a healthy atmosphere to the child with clear expectations, reasoned out rules and always maintain a supportive and not so over-protective stance towards the rearing of their child.
However, not all things come in black and white. There are always shades of grey. So, many a times it is possible to have an amalgamation of different parenting styles. However, there is still one particular style that dominates our parenting most of the time. So, it is important to identify your style and to weigh its pros and cons and see if there is a need to reconsider our style of parenting. Some children are more sensitive and emotional so, it 's really a balance equation between parents and their child. Though there are rules of the thumb, mere authoritarian and neglectful parenting mainly brings ill-effects with it where the relationship between the parents and the child doesn't become open and communicative and the child may develop certain behavioural and emotional problems.
Another important point is to understand that mother and father are two different individuals and many a times have different parenting styles. Thus, there are all permutations and combinations possible. This is also possible that at times one parent learn from the other more effective and a better way of parenting. All in all, we have to raise a happy, healthy, responsible and confident individuals and one need to reflect on the day to day happenings in their parenting to ascertain whether they are moving in that direction or away from it.