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I am very fortunate to have a child. But those who do not have one aren't unfortunate too.
I went through the entire process of wishing for a baby, then conceiving, then having felt a life inside of me for 9 months, felt her heartbeat, her hiccups, her kicks. Then finally having her in my arms, feeding her, cleaning and bathing her, dressing her, sleeping next to her, holding her in my lap while she is enjoying a book or TV, ... A long list.
I wish I could have had her earlier. I really delayed it.
Some couples do this due to their Personal preference or financial conditions or medical issues. This is called as Voluntary Childlessness. I feel when I didn't have her, my motive in life was pretty different though. I was carefree. I looked at other kids with affection but never really died to have one of my own. It was our personal choice to decide when to start a family. We waited for a good long 5 years. We worked with multinational companies, explored lives around each other for a while, traveled, experienced different cuisines. Life was so different. There were occasions when elderly told us to visit a good doctor. But we were aware that nothing is wrong with us. It's our choice and we do not want added responsibility.
Yes, life with a kid is indeed heavenly, but life without one is great too. My heart goes out to the couples who desperately want to have a baby but can't. There could be many issues:
If this gap is still not filled, and one must have a offspring, then a there are ways, easy and practical. No heart breaks. I quote an example of a celebrity. Not just she is unmarried, she is a proud legal mother of two adorable girls.
Sushmita Sen challenged Indian social taboos by adopting a baby girl named Renée in 2000. As a single woman of only 25 years of age, it was not viewed as socially acceptable for her to obtain the guardianship of the baby. However, the High Court of Bombay quashed the appeal and granted her custody. On 13 January 2010, she adopted a three-month-old girl, Alisah.
Another way is surrogacy, but this is not very practical in India and includes a strong financial backup. I second the adoption option as a child who is already in the world, will get a better living plus loving parents too, and this is beyond humanity. This is love. Both sides are left satisfied and happy.
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