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A son has no legal right in his parent's property... he can stay in the house on their mercy. I read this a few weeks back in the news paper and I completely agree with the honourable high court's judgement and wish to share a few things that came to my mind after reading this. As an adult no one should stay on someone's mercy. One ought to work hard and make a living but why is the Indian society such, that on one hand parents don't want to liberate their children and spoon feed them to an extend that children become completely dependent on them and suddenly one day when the parents, who are growing old and obviously tired of carrying all the family load wish that their over pampered kids should start living their own life. Moreover, even if the son tries to do the same, the parents want full authority to keep telling him the right ways of doing things which according to them are the best ways. Why can't they let him try himself and support him emotionally even if he fails? If the son will do the work he wants but fails, then he is given the tag of being indisciplined, disobedient person who dared to go against his parent's wishes hence he has failed. Thus, he must not have any right in the parent's property. I can really understand that their are certain people who are really insensitive towards their parents or rather all elders and don't deserve to be even called sons/ daughters but here I am sharing my views about those who have grown respecting their parents but wish to live their life their way. I sometimes feel pity on some of my friends who have big cars, huge houses and a well settled business but have no authority over their own lives. If they wish to go for a vacation they need their parent's permission, if they want to go for a dinner date, they need permission. Why can't parents understand or be confident enough about their children to let them decide for themselves? Moreover every parent claims to be living and earning for their children but when the child would really need their help, parents would simply deny, as the child wants to do something of his choice which the parent's usually don't agree with! So he must be taught a lesson by telling him how the parent's have struggled to bring him up and now they own him and he must do what they want or expect. Parents must stop helping their children excessively in every field of life which further makes them expect too much from their children. Later, when children become adults and have their own life, the parents feel disappointed because they don't have a life of their own. The parent's life has nothing else left except their children. No hobbies, no enjoyment, no fun... their life begins and ends with their children. So is that a child's fault that you didn't have a life of your own or you sacrificed everything for their sake. Please don't sacrifice anything if you later seek rights on your child's whole life. Let your child be independent enough to take his own decisions and educate them so that they can earn well for themselves. Stop telling them 'sub tumhara hi to hai beta', so that they shouldn't have false hopes from you to be disappointed later. I bet if the parents learn to do this, no child would ever ask of any rights in his parent's property! The parent's who really stop spoon feeding their children at one point would agree that later their child became more independent and self sufficient than they had ever expected him to be.