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The class was busy, individually preparing a presentation for a class project. Each of them had their own presentation style be it inserting objects, formatting objects to animating it. As classmates(/good friends), they appreciated, encouraged, motivated and guided each other. The final presentation had to be submitted as a team, so each of them had to work on their parts and merge it for the final presentation. That was the biggest challenge for them as they had to decide on one format for their final presentation. When they started looking into each other's presentation, they started criticizing their own work. It was so easy for them to appreciate other's work, but difficult to acknowledge their own work. Is it so hard to accept and admire our creativity?We often underestimate our ability, our strengths. Often people say.."Oh! My work is yak! " "Not as good as yours is...". Why don't we honour our work or ourselves? Why is it so tough to accept ourselves?
Looking in the mirror, we focus on our flaws only. No man is perfect. We tend to be ashamed of our unique and passionate abilities. When we suppress these gifts, we're left with a sense of emptiness and loneliness leading to depression. Unless we love and accept ourselves, it's difficult to love and accept others.
"The great thing is to have faith in oneself, even before faith in God; but the difficulty seems to be that we are losing faith in ourselves day by day,” says Swami Vivekananda. Even in Bhagavad Gita, lord Krishna says,
उद्धरेदात्मनात्मानं नात्मानमवसादयेत् |आत्मैव ह्यात्मनो बन्धुरात्मैव रिपुरात्मन: ||
Elevate yourself through the power of your mind, and not degrade yourself, for the mind can be the friend and also the enemy of the self. We are responsible for our own elevation or debasement.
Most often the words that we use in our daily conversation reflect in our action. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble. In simple words, they can build us or destroy us. We need to choose constructive words of encouragement in our day to day conversation.
Comparing ourselves with others will also lower our self-esteem. Why should we evaluate our worth by comparing ourselves to others? Instead of trying to be as good as or better than others, let us focus our energy on being the very best of ourselves. When Acharya Madhwa states in his philosophy that individual soul is never identical, then, why compare ourselves with others? We are unique. Let us embrace that truth. Let us respect our individuality, love, accept, admire and acknowledge ourselves.