I have been thinking so much about friendship this week. You know, it's friendship day coming on this Sunday. After being on this earth for 31 years, I know that there exists friendship for a lifetime and friendship even for a day. But friendship is everywhere on this earth and each of us needs some kind of friendship. I am a mother, working full time, managing my home with a toddler, always busy, still, I care about my school, college, office friends. Although the tide is different now. We talk less but we value each other. Don’t you think Friendship as an adult is as important as it is for kids?
As Friendship is necessary for every facet of our lives, it is a boon, especially in motherhood. We all know that motherhood can be exciting, amazing and that our hearts may feel as if they can’t get any bigger. But motherhood can also make a mother lonely, especially when she is a new mother. During early days, mothers are stuck at homes. They can't leave their babies and they are bound to live as per baby's needs. Then some stay-at-home mothers feel their friends are working and they are too busy to see them. Working mothers assume their stay-at-home friends are fully enclosed by family and kids and don’t poke them. Sadly this is how friendship gets into a confused state.
I have made many good office friends in my 8 years of career but one friendship has become really important for me with time. I couldn't realize when Saumya has become my best buddy. Maybe because we think similar, our choices are close and we have same weight factor :) My son goes to a crèche facilitated by my office only. It's really nice that mothers can work and at the same time be in touch with their babies. And in 4 months, Saumya has become his friend as well, whom he takes as a family member. Co-incidentally Saumya and I are in the same project and we live in the same locality. So we meet each other Monday to Friday until something unavoidable. Why I am talking so much about friendship is because it lets you take a breathe outside of your mommy-hood. When I am in my office bus, Saumya looks after my tot. They both sing together, wave to passing people, notice flowers, and trees and make a lot of fun with each other. It’s so overwhelming to see my son laughing and enjoying with Saumya. I know all this will change with time. We might move in different projects, we might shift to our flats or we may switch our jobs. But until we are together we don't miss any chance to have a tea together with our funny chit chat.
For many mothers today, social media has been a bit of a savior. Sure, it has its side-effects, but for a mother at home with a newborn, it’s a lifeline. It gives her the chance to talk, connect and feel a little less alone. However making friends isn’t always easy. It can be uncomfortable to spark up a conversation with a mother at the playground or the local society compound. But if you find the right person, a kindred soul, it’s always worth it. So call your stay-at-home mommy friends and wish them Friendship day. It’s Sunday so ring your working friends also and disturb them saying Happy Friendship Day!