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I became a stay-at-home mom a year and half ago when I had my Little G. Living abroad minus any family support, it seemed the only right thing to do. Few months after having my baby girl, I started getting questions and comments like these from friends and acquaintances "When do you plan to start working again"? "Hats off to you, I can't imagine being a stay-at-home mom"! "It must be nice to be home, but what do you do the entire day"? To be honest, the comments sounded condescending but that time I was myself a bit apologetic about my status, as if slogging whole day and beyond taking care of a needy baby was not work enough or work worthy of mention. I would tell them that I am "just" a stay-at-home mom but I do write when I get some free time (if that makes me sound interesting and capable enough). Whew!
I started wondering if my fancy college degree was a waste of time and money. I started comparing myself with other women who seem to be doing exciting things in their career and had much more going in their lives than "just" taking care of their family. I started worrying about my life that was running on a repeat mode doing banal and unchallenging things. I would often think, it's not a rocket science to be a mom. Almost every woman does it, even the ones who do not have any college degrees or even been to a school, so what's the big deal? I started worrying that my supportive husband who really appreciates me as a mother, might soon start considering me as less worthy and less capable. I was worried that I would end up being "just" a mom!
Well, fast forward my life by few months, with lot of pep talks with myself and my husband, I have realised there is no "just" in being a mom.
My mother, mother-in-law, aunts have spent their life raising their kids and taking care of their families, and I have deep respect for them. I never consider what they do at home, unworthy or unimportant so how could I think of myself as unworthy doing the same?
I have realised that we need to give more honor and respect to our lives as a mom, and whenever we think that we are "just" stay-at-home moms, we need to REMEMBER THIS...
Raising young children is a responsible task
Babies and toddlers need constant attention, and their young impressionable minds need right guidance. Who can be a better first teacher than a mother? If you decide to stay-at-home, by choice or even if out of any constraint, take pride in yourself as a mom and your decision. Moms plays a pivotal role in the lives of their kids, particularly in early years. What you are doing is very important for your children and kids surely value your presence more than anything else. Hold your head high, mammas!
Making money is not the only task worthy of importance
You might not be making money, but that does not makes your role in your family any less important. Mothers are the backbone of their family, holding everyone tight and upright and making it all fully functional. You make sure that your family is healthy, you make sure that the kids remain safe, you take care of everyone around you day in and out, you have no fixed working hours, get no weekend off or sick leaves and all this for no paycheck at the end of the month. But being a mom is rewarding enough! When your kids love you back and they do well, it makes it all worth it!
But if still not convinced of your worth or acknowledged, step-down from your post as a mom for a day and you (and others around you) would get to know what you mean to your family.
There is no "just" in being a stay-at-home mom.
Well, moms might not really be living a glamorous life on daily basis (particularly the ones with young kids), and might seem very ordinary (to say the least) but there is nothing ordinary about the multitasking superwomen who can turn tears into smiles and frowns into giggles. From being a guardian, friend, teacher to chef, a mother dons many hats for her kids and family. Her tireless behind-the-scene role makes sure that others in her family be it husband or kids are able to do their jobs outside of home to best of their capabilities.
Mothers nurture kids that are the future of a society. At the face of it, a mother's job might not look important but it surely is! Don't believe me? Go out to a supermarket or a mall with your littles ones and look how the old people around are all smiles and look at you with awwww. They surely know how important it to raise kids and moms, working professional or stay-at-home, all around are doing an awesome job. I might go back to having a career once my Little G is grown up enough, but it won't be because I need to find my worth because working or non-working, all mothers are worthy of honor!