"Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth."
Children are like delicate plants, which need proper care, a bit of shade, sprinkling of water and lots of sunshine with essential nutrients for their right development and growth.
A mix of all these things in right proportion will not only give us healthy kids but also well-behaved children and adults of tomorrow.
The reins are to be held loosely, as well as a bit of controlling at every stage.They have to be handled with care and pruned regularly, till the stage when they should be left to grow on their own. Yes it is important, that apart from healthy children, we also have better citizens of tomorrow.
Often we have heard people complaining about others kids as spoilt children, when the kids resort to all sort of tactics and causing embarrassment to the parents publicly.
But!! how can be children good or bad?!!!Well children become what we make them.
There are some over-indulgent parents, 'the fussers', Who worry every now and then, an instructional set is always handy with them, for example: "look out you will fall", 'don't touch this or that', 'oh he/she does not eat this", etc etc.
Then there is set of 'easy-going' parents, ' the cool ones' who do not believe in hampering the growth of their children by do's or don'ts. After all they truly believe that children are not to be contradicted for it might mar their personalities, as they may grow up with complexes, as a result these children do coolest stuff at all the wrong places and grab attention for all the wrong reasons and the cool parents can be seen soaking the Sun or involved in lengthy conversations or chatting around on the mobile with friends, giving their darling children all the' me time'. Yes they turn Nelson's eye to what their offspring are up to. Meanwhile the modern day Hanuman and Army of monkeys would have wreaked havoc, by uprooting plants and turning the world of the host Topsy-turvy.
The worry lines on the forehead of the hosts is completely ignored by such kind of parents, as love is blind for them and 'apple of their eyes' can cause no harm.
On the other hand, the 'over-enthusiastic parents' leave no stone unturned to bring centre-stage the day to day activities of their kids. Even when the kid is seen throwing his/her weight and dominating other kids or hitting them, the parents of the bully take pride as heart of hearts they believe that their kid will lead the pack and wont be a mere follower or spectator. The favorite conversation of such parents is about their children all the time and nothing else.
Other category of parents is the one which believes that their kids are the most docile and sober lot, but all the other children are monsters ganged up against their little baby. Such parents get involved in childish battles and criticising other children.
While, the other parents are on the receiving end listening in a state of shock.
There is also a category of parents called the 'lost ones' , who have exactly no clue or idea about handling their kids. The moment, the child throws tantrums, the parents run here and there with forlorn looks, they hardly have any idea how to handle the child. On single scream of the child, the parents are ready to pluck moon and stars, so that the child remains quiet.
Last but not the least, there is also a category of parents with 'low self esteem '.This category is the one who believes least in their kids, any thing done wrong, can only be done by their children. Even before the culprit is held they confess at their child's fault.
Whether a Boy or Girl, matters of etiquettes need to be taught by parents in right measure. Girls cannot be asked to behave prim and proper and boys be left to loiter around, as they are rough and tough.
To produce well-behaved children is not just the duty of the school, rather we as parents are more responsible for it. The kind of company children have does reflects on their personality, but at the end of the day, 'good' or 'bad' the onus only lies on the upbringing of the parents. The child imbibes, what a parent imparts in the form of day to day teaching to the child. There is nothing wrong in looking after the needs of your child but constantly checking on them, rectifying their mistakes in public, or over-pampering them, does hamper their confidence and on the other hand letting them astray will make them more or less rebellious.
So a right mix of care, caress and confidence in your child from your side are the most vital and essential components for his/her growth.