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Bullying is a serious issue.
When our children grow up to be a certain age, we have to let them go into the real world. All we can hope is that we have them the proper tools so that they can take care of themselves. We aren’t able to protect them all the time like we were when they were young and in our arms.
When we leave our child at school, we leave them in the capable hands of their teachers. But unfortunately, sometimes that isn’t enough to protect them from something like bullying. Bullying can take so many different forms. It can emotional or physical. It can be a mild or extreme.
One of the biggest fears I have for my child is that she
will have to endure some form of bullying. How do I teach her how to cope with
it? How do I teach her to stand up to it? How do I teach her how to move past
it and thrive regardless of it?
I can only try to raise her with some values that might help her in the case she ever does face a bully. Here are five things I definitely want to teach her:
1) Know where you came from. I believe that having a strong family and knowing your cultural roots helps. But even if your background isn’t something that you’re necessarily proud of, know and understand it so you can use it to move forward towards your goals.
2) Be confident in your decisions. Everyone might not agree with you and you might have to face some challenges but keep faith in yourself.
3) Be proud of who you are. People can make fun of you, tease you, and embarrass you for who you are but if you are proud of yourself, that’s all that matters.
4) Remember your goals and that you can do anything you achieve. There will always be people who don’t believe you and try to hold you back. Don’t let their voices be louder than your own. Believe in yourself.
5) You can always turn to your parents for help. I know that during some of the hardest times that I’ve had, I’ve turned to my parents for help. They were my safe haven. They protected me mentally and emotionally when I wasn’t able to protect myself. They gave me the strength to face whatever challenges came my way. I want you to be able to turn to us whenever you need us for anything.
With these pieces of advice, I hope she will have the ability to be a strong person and the ability to face anything that happens to her. I want her to know that, regardless of whether she is the popular kid at school or a nerd like Motu in Ghotu Motu Ki Toli, we love her. I sincerely hope that she has the courage and the confidence to thrive regardless of whatever life brings her.
Written by Shailee Butalia - A second generation Indian mother of a gorgeous daughter living in the USA... writing this on behalf of the wonderful team of Ghotu Motu Ki Toli.