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Best way to Discipline children: Punishment or Teaching?
What is Punishment?
Punishment is inappropriate use of words or language which is harsh, unreasonable, violent or harmful.
Corporal Punishment is hitting, slapping, or punching or hurting children emotionally as well as physically
Question is why do parents punish children?
Parent punish children because punishment gives immediate short term results that seem to be effective
Parents are not sure what else could be done in such situations
Parents fear of losing authority.They feel that if they are not tough enough they will lose control over their kids.
Because no one taught them the other way
Negative effects of Punishment
If one punishment doesn’t work, parents often try a harsher one; and it escalates to higher levels.
Then what is the best way to teach kids?
Is it really possible to teach kids in a way that they understand and without feeling hurt.
Yes, definitely we can make our child understand his/her mistake without feeling bad about it.
If we try to follow these 7 Steps surely we can have a relationship
Step 1 - Be specific – let your children known exactly where they need to change
Step 2-Be Responsive – make them understand about the side effects of their behavior
Step 3-Concrete –give them clear examples how o improve in future
Step 4-Always use positive words–help them to be in control of their actions by using positive words
Step 5-Be Interactive –give them chance to share their point of view about their behavior
Step 6-Be Informative – share and discuss with them the appropriate way be behave in such situations
Step 7-Initiate sharing and discussion
Importance of Sharing and Discussion
Sharing and Discussion have many long term benefits if you are pleasant , firm consistent and able to give clear messages.
Happy Parenting to you!