I Sent My Son to Day-Care, and Guilt did not follow me ~Selfishly Yours, Amma !!
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I Sent My Son to Day-Care, and Guilt did not follow me ~Selfishly Yours, Amma !!

It all boiled down to that moment, and that discussion, with that person.


Who gladly was a self proclaimed judge in his own terms and was furious of my 'Selfish' act to enroll Baby Ved in a Daycare.


He also uninvitingly reminded me on how Blessed I should be to become a mother and unpleasantly advised on Parenting my Son who I gave birth to.


He also intimidatingly cautioned me to value my 'job' less than my 'Son'. Meaning quit the job.


Seriously, you wnat me to believe, that the strength of your love towards your child is measured on the date and time you put them in day-care houses.


How many of us have parents who are ill and old and unable to manage a Hyperactive toddler.


Every mother i have spoken to at work have given me immense faith, hope and confidence in raising my Son the way I want, which undoubtedly the best way.


We have shared Opinions, Thoughts, Inspired each other, Encouraged each other, Motivated each other and some days i strongly feel that those working mom were the only reason i did not give up on my career.


Those fragile but brave single moms, whose support systems have all gone for a toss, they are the heroes for me. the battles they have to face, doing the balancing act is beyond me.


When I decided to leave my son at the daycare (Yes I decided, Baby Ved's Dad gracefully left that job to me), I did it with a lot of planning.


Not once did I feel guilty throughout the process. Not once. Not one single time.


If guilt of all, is said to be the emotion to leave your child behind, then I had that Damn guilt from the day I started working after maternity leave, when Babe Ved was still a tiny 5.5 month old baby.


Coming from a family of Women, who boasted of their lustrous professional life, who worked their way out to make a living, who not just stood by their own legs but thoughts and opinions, I did not feel the "Odd one Out' syndrome when I continued work after Maternity.


After all thats what every humble family does throughout the world. They Work.


Thats what every Dad hopes for his Daughter when he provided education.


Thats what every mother prays for her daughter, that she will show the world her greatness.


Sending your Child to daycare is not a crime and much more below, are few of the golden confessions of beautiful Working Moms in my life.

  • That Seperation Anxiety is not just for the child but it is experienced hundred fold by the mother too.
  • Keeping your child close to you beyond a certain age does more harm than good.
  • It is perfectly fine to feel inadequate, but dont dwell there.
  • If not today, one day your Child is going to get exposed to the beautiful world of Schooling and learning.
  • You will definitely love the new independent child.
  • Taking the first bold step  and importantly that leap of faith makes half the job complete.
  • And when you hand over your precious child to the caretakers makesure you say that prayer of love and believe your child will be safe in God's hand, not just in daycare but forever.


Finally, don't forget yet ~ you know what is best for your Child, after all it was you who took all the pain.


One day, not very far, your child will walk up to you and thank you for the trust you had in Him/Her to let go and kiss your handworking hands in gratitude for all that you provided.


Pris,

A little Boy's Amma.




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