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An Indian daughter in law is married to the entire family. She is held responsible for every movement in the house and is expected to know everything, including taking care of oldies to the youngest member of the family. She is judged on different parameters and is compared to everyone irrespective of age, and experience. She is expected to attain artistic niche without any professional training. At times when she stumbles in any of the chores, she is blamed for her sanskaras. The comparisons are generally vague, which she faces on a daily basis-My daughter’s skin is fairer than you, my son drives better than you. Your cooking doesn’t match mine, Mrs Dikshit’s bahu is more sanskari! The list is never ending... Accepting a new member in the family is generally difficult for most Indian families. At times when they don’t complain in front of you, they end up doing in your absence. Back stabbing is more toxic! Hence disengagement of relationship is the outcome! Some families cannot accept the daughter in law to play a major role and especially in their son’s life. Many a time for proving their point the in-laws can stoop to any extent to ruin the married life. The brutal truth is the one who has given birth to the 'Male of the society', is a woman herself! The one who ties Rakhi to that 'Male' is a woman herself! We talk about feminism, every time, but actually, a woman herself is responsible for the entire catastrophe. We do not have to fight against the men of the society rather we need to help every woman understand this! Blaming a successful lady is very easy but has the one who is blaming -ever thought about the grinding behind the scene! Why is leg pulling and criticism encouraged? Each woman goes through her phase of struggle and is rewarded accordingly. Few learn from their experience and few indulge into letting others down.I am sure ladies each one of us has our own experiences to share. What’s your take on it?