Dear husband, please don’t fast for me on karwa chauth
|   Oct 19, 2016
Dear husband, please don’t fast for me on karwa chauth

This morning I found my Facebook and Twitter time line filled with three kinds of people; married women fasting and celebrating Karwa chauth, men and women bashing those fasting as being regressive and misogynist and a third kind coaxing husbands to fast along with their wives. At the onset let me clear I belong to the first group. I find this festival sweet and always wanted to follow it even if not required by tradition. To the second kind I only have one thing to say – “it’s my choice, no one is forcing me to be hungry and you have no right to tell me what I should or shouldn’t do.” I have absolutely no problem if your hubby fasts along with you but I don’t wish that happens in my home and I have my reasons.

  1. I believe it’s every individual’s personal choice whether its men or women. Just like fasting should not be mandatory or a measure for a wife’s love or dedication towards her husband; there is no need to guilt shame men if they are not fasting for their wives. I know my husband loves me and he doesn’t need to stay hungry to prove it.
  2. It may sound selfish but it’s ‘my’ day. I need and deserve all the pampering. I love it when my hubby calls me every hour to check on me and fusses over everything. I don’t want him to steal that attention. I know of a colleague whose husband fasts along and hogs all the limelight about how sweet and nice of him while she gets sidelined.
  3. My husband may not know himself but I have lived with him long enough to know how he gets cranky when hungry. As I fast and keep myself busy with the thought of what to wear in evening, I don’t want a cranky, cribbing partner. Let him be happy and keep me pleased.

So there you go, my reasons for fasting and not wanting my husband to do that in return. It is all about flexibility and choice. Don’t force or torture yourself or your loved ones into doing something. Happy Karwa Chauth to all. May you be blessed with eternal love.

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