Post Delivery blues....!
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|   Aug 19, 2016
Post Delivery blues....!

In the first few weeks of my daughters birth...she practically gave me quite a few unexpected jolts.

While my delivery was a perfect natural delivery, my ordeal started once we got back home with our bundle of joy on the third day.

First, I had lactation issues, still I did mange to pump out a few ounces ..but somehow I wasn't happy....or I was simply Depressed ! No particular reason but I just couldn't gather myself to take care of my baby and that made things all the more worse ...

Second, at every diaper change I noticed a blood spot in her diaper and after checking with Three Senior Neonatalogist, I had to convince myself that this was Normal as few babies may take on their mother who is bleeding profusely post delivery.

Third, there was a constant rush of relatives who came in "good spirits" to congratulate us but somehow I was getting irritated with these regular visits ....

As a result, I lost my appetite and this adversely affected my milk supply...unwillingly we had to start with formula feed but that meant extra effort to sterilise bottles, prepare feed, set it at right temperature and then feed the baby...

While I managed all this with my husbands support but then...worst was yet to come....suddenly one morning I realised that my baby was down with fever, barely a week old and we were handed over a long list of blood tests...we took her to a nearby plush/reputed hospital where the doctors mishandled my baby in the most rude manner (an inexperienced doctor/staff took the baby, locked the room and was piercing needle in her hand nerve and she was wailing away) I couldn't take it anymore and..finally I banged on the door and shouted at him to just open the door and give my baby back! I continued with regular dose of Crocin and after two days the baby seemed to be fine....

But I wasn't .....I could not take all these mishappemings and started blaming myself to be a bad/worse mom ....i lost interest in even pumping out milk and this meant sore breasts and high fever ! Thankfully my gynaecologist counselled me that I had to pump out the milk whether baby takes it or no...I had to try hard to get up and take care of my baby ....Along with my husband , my mother and elder sister all who supported me immensely and stayed by my side throughout....

Days went by and finally on the 18th day, after a small "Pooja ceremony" I decided to go to my parents place for a break....and the so called break got stretched a bit as I took full time to relax and realised that what my sister had been advising all these days was true....if I was happy the baby seemed happier! I stayed for almost two months at my moms and baby was doing fine enough!

Yes a few relatives and friends tried to poke in their nose that I'm separating the baby from her father and there will be no-bonding at all....that she would not recognise her father at all...but I just didn't pay any heed ...as long as my baby and I were happy!

Even after coming back after the long break, I made sure to go to my parents place every week for a couple of days or even more which use to give me a much needed break as well as to my husband ...

So, my advice to all first time Pregnant women:

  • please make sure you have ample support , either a nice help, mother or mother in law who can really take care of the baby for first 40 days post delivery, because c-section or natural, a woman is not fit for the first 40 days and needs immense care herself...
  • Try and be in regular touch with your gynaecologist post delivery as most new moms have lactation issues these days....
    • Please restrict visitors as it really disturbs the mother and the new born, instead of daily visits which get prolonged for all reasons, speak to your family beforehand to organise a small get together once the mother and baby are better !
    • And last, all family members, especially Husbands must understand that a woman undergoes a lot of changes post delivery, so, along with the baby, she too needs a lot of care, kind words of motivation and full support so that she too is able to enjoy Motherhood to the fullest!
    • P.S. This is based on my personal experience, my daughter is presently three now and is equally attached to her father.

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