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Things parents say around their children can have a big impact — and not necessarily a positive one. Part of parenting and raising healthy kids involves understanding how they take subtle cues from mom and dad — and how they interpret the language that you use. I believe words are seeds. They have the ability to reproduce themselves. Instead of speaking condemning words into the lives of our children, speak forth the change – what you want to see in their lives. You cannot correct anyone by condemning them. Whether your words are positive or negative, they are seeds.
So, here are some commonly used words that we should avoid using in front of our kids as I understood from some best articles online.
"Shut up!" Parenting can be tough, but having regular meltdowns, verbally abusing your partner and children, and flashing your temper are not the kind of kids' lessons you want to teach.
"I'm so fat." No matter how you feel about your own body, avoid obsessing about your weight or dieting around kids. Kids often view such concerns as a standard for their own behavior. "The mother saying, 'I'm fat, and I don't like the way I look' might be seen by her child as, 'I better not get fat and I have to look pretty, otherwise mommy isn't going to like me,'
"Don't be afraid." To parent healthy kids, calming their fears needs to be more specific than that pat phrase. It is better to figure out what is frightening them and address that issue. Merely telling them not to be afraid doesn't help the situation.
"What the [bleep]!" What parent doesn't want to sink through the floor after their toddler drops a four-letter word in front of company? Want to avoid this in your family? Good parenting means using the kind of language you won't mind your children repeating. Children mirror what they see and hear in the home.
“Anything bad about School” Parents should resist criticizing their kids' school, including the faculty, in front of children. The teacher and parent should really be a team in molding a child's education. The child needs to thrive in that environment and trust their teacher. Parental attitudes toward school could influence the child's behavior in the classroom and at school.
Although it's not always possible to filter every word you say, being aware of these particular red flags will help you raise healthy, well-adjusted kids and perhaps even sidestep some of the more challenging issues that many parents face.