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When A was younger, We were together all the time. Since she needed me for everything. As she started growing up, the time which we used to spend together started to decrease.Now in her teens, she hardly has time for me. After spending all day in the school, she is busy with her homework and projects in the evenings. Rest of the time her friends and social media take. I miss the time we used to be with each other all day. Have you ever thought about the time you spend with your family? The time when you listen to the stories your children want to share with you or to the questions they want to know the answers of. The time when your spouse shares the problems he faces at his workplace.
For every woman working or stay at home, her family and kids are her first priority. Still, the world around and its activities leave no time for the most important part of the life.The concept of the family too has changed over the years. The big joint family with grandparents and cousins has given way to the nuclear family.However, this transition makes spending time with your family all the more important. With both the parents working, kids spend most of the after school time in day care or with the help at home. Parents and children have very less face to face interaction.The working mums think that the stay at home mums are somehow better than them as they have more time to spend with their family.
However, my experience says that its quality more than quantity that matters. If in a family everyone is sitting around the dining table with a smartphone in hand or if everyone is sitting in front of the T.V, What' s the use of being together? And I have seen stay at home mothers who prefer to attend kitty parties instead of solving their kid's maths problems. I have come across the working mothers who make it a point to help their kids with homework, come what may.
Quality family time is when you are interacting with the family sans all the distractions of your daily chores, away from the television and the internet. Quality time is essential for the strong connections among the family members. Children are great imitators. They may not learn what you teach them, but they will learn what you do. The understanding and love between their parents give them the right foundation for future close relations.
Children learn everything from their parents. Their relationship with their parents defines all the relationship they will form in future. The daily positive interaction even if its for half an hour goes a long way in forming the strong bonds among the members of the family. The strong family connections result in happier, healthier and more confident children. In today's busy times, finding time for the family is one of the toughest tasks. However, if you will make it a priority, then you can easily do it. Here are some of the ways to spend time together:
Cook and eat together:
A family that cooks and eats together stays together. Cooking together helps the kids to learn the art of cooking as well as form good bond with their parents.Dinner time conversations can teach them table manners or healthy habits.
"You are never too old, too wacky, too wild to pick up a book and read it to a child." -Dr. Seuss
Reading a book that your children love is the best way to involve them. My daughter and I share the love for Nancy Drew and Hardy Boys. Sherlock Holmes is our all time favourite.We read the same books and later discuss or sometimes she reads and narrates the story.
Find the outdoor activities everyone in the family loves to do.Find a sport your children love. It can be a game of football, badminton or cricket.In my family, everyone loves cycling. On weekends, we go out cycling. An evening walk with the family or a picnic in the park in your city is a good way to spend time with the spouse and kids.
Learn a new hobby:
Learn a new hobby together.It can be dance, baking or skating. This is the best way to spend time with your teenage children.
Plan a holiday:
Planning a holiday once or twice a year is the best way to make memories with your family. Take the help of your children to decide the destination. Share your experiences about online bookings. Tell them to assist you. These small lessons help them to have a closer look at life.
Instead of being an authoritative parent, try to be friends with your teenager so that the conversation flows in a natural manner. Please share how do you spend time with your family. Your suggestions are welcome.