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After a long time, today morning I had a chat with one of my school friend who is so charming and full of life.
But sudden I remember that period when she was going through a crucial depression due to her family problem and studies. She was teenagege girl with blond blue eyes. She gets awesome grades, loves to paint, go to handball games and giggle with friends. She obsesses over makeup tutorials . Everyone admired her. Since she was diagnosed with depression 9 years ago, I have noticed a lot of changes in her. Anyone can have depression — from celebrities, to hairstylists, to that guy next to you . It isn’t just the gloomy kids. This illness is pervasive and the amount of misconception is astounding. So I am going to share some of my experiences which I got to know with her to help clear the air and it can help you if your teenage child or anyone is going through depression. We live in a time that demands instant gratification. We have cough syrup and various other insta-cures for our physical problems. Unfortunately, antidepressants are not to depression as crocin is to headaches. Depression is often a long journey. Medication and therapy help, but do not make it disappear. The only “cure” is to accept depression and try to make positive, healthy choices. The worst part of a depressive episode is when someone asks questions like “Why?” “What happened?” or “Was someone mean to you?”. Never ask these questions as it feels like you’re trying to pedal through quicksand with no tires. Moreover, it is almost impossible to explain, so trying to answer these questions makes your child feel like even more of a failure. " advice is much easier to give when there is a definitive issue at hand". The best thing you can do when you are trying to help someone with depression is to simply be there. Depression does not make anyone unique, who is going through it.What makes unique is the fact that talk about it. It took years to find a way to speak about mental illness. The shame, weakness and hopelessness . These are not the kind of feelings anyone like to admit to having, but make your child remember that they are not alone in their loneliness. There are millions of other people who feel just like them. It may hurt to start the conversation, but in the end, the dark clouds overhead often lift.
The four things I would like you to know is: 1. There is no face of depression. It impacts every race, religion, gender, socioeconomic group and geographical area. 2. Depression has no miracle medicine or quick fix. 3. It is hard to explain depression, so it is best to just be there and not ask question. 4. Depression is painful to discuss, but it’s beneficial to talk about it in the end. It’s not fun to deal with personally, or to watch someone else battle it. The best thing you can do for yourself, your child or anyone else with a mental illness is to speak. An open dialogue is the only way to eliminate the mental illness. If you believe that you or your child suffering from depression, I encourage you to get help. Find a counselor, parent or friend and spill your guts. You might cry, but talking about it can take away that clenched feeling in your chest that makes it hard to breathe.