- Two-year-old Sia half submerged in bathtub playing with toys, now for all of us to see on Facebook. Imagine how two year old Sia would feel 10 years later when she sees herself half submerged in bathtub playing with bath toys. Her mother unintentionally made her private affair as public affair.
- Under the Twitter hashtag #funtime, Arav, three, is just this minute enjoying an ice cream at the XYZ park. Arav’s parents have shared the time and location of their little baby. Aren’t they compromising with his safety.
- While an Instagram pic of year old Yuvi’s peachy bottom is all the evidence needed that his nappy rash is much better. How Yuvi will feel when after fifteen years he sees the photo of his bare bottom which his mother has uploaded on Instagram seeking advice from fellow mothers on what to do with that horrible nappy rash.
- 7 year old Adi bullied by his classmates. Mother asking solution in a Facebook group. Unknowingly reveals the name of the school, kid and the bullies. She received many comments where the parents ,other than the advice wrote sympathies for her son, said malicious things about the school and bullies. Why didn't Adi’s mother think how her son will feel after a few years when he gets to know that his mother has shared such sensitive information with everyone.
The entire situation left me thinking if the parents have done the right thing by telling the real details. Haven’t they revealed a lot?.. Welcome to the world of Sharenting. It refers to parents who: “blog, tweet and post pictures from their children’s lives – time and again”. Visit any website and you’ll come across news feed related to child’s picture and videos, news and views about parenting style and announcements of child’s achievement and other related information. All this just to satisfy parent’s bloated ego.
‘Nowadays for parents it's not important to have lovely time with the kids. What is important is to experience it – and then Facebook it'
Are parenting for our kids – or for other people?
Some ill effects of Sharenting
- Strangers may be stealing your kids’ photos and identity from your social media content, creating new social media accounts for the baby or young child and performing “role playing” with the false identity account.
- Have you seen a youtube video of lil kids playing with their potty or doing funny dance moves. It may sound very cute now but it’s not clear that this child would want this digital footprint of himself to endure as he one day applies to college or a job in the future. Imagine the humiliation of those potty-training pictures still circulating when your child is a teenager.
- With the simple act of sharing a photo, parents may be revealing information about their child’s identity, school, and physical location, which could compromise their child’s safety. Did you know that Facebook reserves the right to use your family photos if you post them on their site?
- One of my friends 6 year old daughter, is always asking her mother to take her pictures in different poses. She helps her mother to choose which photograph to upload on facebook for getting maximum likes. Is that little girl’s worth determined by few likes and comments from people who might not have even met her?
- Any act of sharing has the potential to go viral and affect your child’s digital reputation, so before you post an embarrassing photo or event about your child, think carefully about how the posting might affect your child’s feelings in the future.
- If you want to update something about your child online, make sure you double check the privacy setting.
- There are few apps and tools which protect your photos, documents, and moments from being hacked.
- If you want to share photos with your near dear ones, attach photos to an email.
- If you are facing parenting concerns and need advice, talk with your doctor , a counselor, or on your WhatsApp mommy group.
- If at all you need to post the parenting issues on social media then refrain from divulging the real details.
Each time we hold our phone to get the best view of our children, we forget we will always get the best picture if we simply look at them with our own eyes, instead of trying to capture it for an imagined audience. If you can’t enjoy a special moment with your child because you have to post the pictures of yourself having a good time, it’s time to rethink. What message does it send to a child to say you’re not enough for me – unless I get approval for the things you do?"