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Many a time, I am harbouring some Guilt in my head.Have you women felt like this? As if nature adds in a guilt gene alongwith the XX chromosomes. Or is it the way we are nurtured? Are we programmed to feel this way?I call it The Guilt Phenomenon. Maybe, because I have seen my mother feel the same way, and I have unconsciously imbibed the phenomenon while outwardly always berating her for feeling so. But whatever be the reason, I want to consciously unlearn it. All of you must, because we want to protect our children from absorbing a feeling as exhausting and draining as Guilt!
I am a woman
and that ordains
a life of tension
and anxieties and pains
all created by me
cos you see
Last weekend I planned
to go out with my girlfriend
but then I felt bad
about leaving behind my husband
Was he happy?
O yes! but you see
I didnt call mom today
why dont I see her more often?
and twice or thrice a week isnt enough
when the days in the week number seven
and while she maynt worry me
you see I.FEEL.GUILTY.
I havent exercised in days
nor have I visited the spa
cos my daughter needs me to stay
how can she survive without her ma?
Agreed, I might be a wee bit lazy,
and its so unnecessary
What will he say?
How will she feel?
How do I climb out of this vicious wheel?
cos relationships will have no appeal
if I feel constrained instead of free
So I say to you, GUILT
get out of my head cos
there was no path built
that I could not tread
if I put my head to it. I can nip
you in the bud, GUILT - RIP.
And that is what we need to do ladies – Rest our Guilt mechanism that auto activates itself given every chance. Happiness breeds happiness. See the joy spread as you nip it in the bud.All the best!