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"You are so lucky", is what a lot of people tend to say when good things happen to people. I have heard that too from some people referring to some of my so called achievements. On several occasions I have often found telling the same to myself. And without doubt I can say that all of us have done this at some point in time or the other.
On a cold Sunday morning, sipping tea, I uttered the similar words to my husband. I re-iterated to him on having the loving ,caring and supportive husband that he is, on having my dream job, living the kind of life that I had wished for, and yes, not forgetting to give all the credit to my 'luck'. He looked at me with that similar smile on his face and told something that permanently changed my perspective for luck or lack of it.
He told that we almost fought a battle which lasted for several years to convince our parents for our marriage, as both of us were from different parts of the country with varied cultures, and the idea of our marriage did not immediately strike the right chord with our parents. He reminded me of the several failures I had to go through, and the sacrifices I had to make, before landing in my dream job. He underlined the importance of perseverance, hard work and determination, and suddenly, I was thinking of each and every incident in my life which I was attributing to good or bad luck and 'luck factor' almost lost its significance.
If things don't go our way, we are also smart enough to not take blames on ourselves, instead putting the onus on 'bad luck'. It's time we stand up and take the responsibility, for good or bad.
For everything that's under your control, all I can say is "the harder you work, the luckier you get". Period. Don't forget to give yourself the 'pat' that you rightly deserve. And pass on the same theory to your kids, which I will do for sure. Maragret Thatcher , former prime minister of the United Kingdom once said “I wasn’t lucky. I deserved it.” This makes so much sense to me now and I truly believe in it.